Emotionally abusive relationships, we talked about them in a romantic sense in series one of this podcast, in series two we delve into emotionally abusive parents; what that looks like, signs to look out for and what tools you need to help yourself, reconcile the damage caused when raised by narcissists and overcome a debilitating history, not to repeat or seek it out in adult relationships and reclaim your life. 
Jan Marsh has been a clinical psychologist for over 40 years and is the author of Dealing with Depression. Jan talks about her experience speaking with children of narcissistic mothers who grapple with pressure from society to constantly make excuses for them, because they are family.

4: Emotional Abuse - A Conversation with Jan Marsh

To acknowledge RUOK? Day. Emma chats about experience with emotional abuse.

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Episode 3 is with Belinda Beaumont, a counsellor at Kids Helpline, a free private and confidential 24/7 phone and online counselling service who has been helping Aussie kids for nearly 30 years now with over 8 million contacts... and one of them was me. 








Children often lack the perspective to be able to identify the abusive elements of their emotional relationship with their parents, it's only in adulthood that they're more able to detect them. You can't go back in time and change the way your parent behaved, but if you have a strained relationship with your parents and think it may be a result of their actions, you may find yourself working backwards to find out why.








Belinda talks about if there are some signs which a child might be able to identify that may give them the right "word tools" to go see their school counsellor to make them understand what is happening at home and not automatically take the parents side, as it is a fear of many children that if the parent finds out they told their truth the abuse then may escalate at home. Even for an adult worried about a child they know, Belinda explains what sort of questions they could ask to open the communication lines to ultimately get the child in contact with professionals like Kids Helpline.






6: Emotional Abuse - A Conversation with Belinda Beaumont

Episode 3 is with Belinda Beaumont, a counsellor at Kids Helpline (https://kidshelpline.com.au/) , a free private and confidential 24/7 phone and online counselling service who has been helping Aussie kids for nearly 30 years now with over 8 million contacts... and one of them was me. 
Children often lack the perspective to be able to identify the abusive elements of their emotional relationship with their parents, it's only in adulthood that they're more able to detect them. You can't go back in time and change the way your parent behaved, but if you have a strained relationship with your parents and think it may be a result of their actions, you may find yourself working backwards to find out why.
Belinda talks about if there are some signs which a child might be able to identify that may give them the right "word tools" to go see their school counsellor to make them understand what is happening at home and not automatically take the parents side, as it is a fear of many children that if the parent finds out they told their truth the abuse then may escalate at home. Even for an adult worried about a child they know, Belinda explains what sort of questions they could ask to open the communication lines to ultimately get the child in contact with professionals like Kids Helpline.




Episode 2 is with Author Danu Morrigan who runs the brilliant website Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers and has penned the best seller "You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother." Danu gives insight into the behaviour patterns of a narcissistic mother and enabling father and firsthand accounts of what it is like growing up in this kind of toxic environment. Passionate about putting into the public domain that it is OK not to have a relationship with your parents, Danu explains that it was to her detriment that she "bought into society's lies that you have to keep in touch with parents no matter how horrible they are to you" and that people don't have to pay the price of that with a lifetime of trauma and suffering.








Danu examines how some people's idea of narcissism is simply outwardly vain attention seeking individuals but there are various types including vulnerable narcissism, where the narcissistic parent sense of grandiose is much more inverted;  they think they deserve greatness, but are easily angered when they don't get it. Their need for control, to divide and conquer in their small bubble they have created can be subtle and calculated - they don't want to be caught out for the person they really are. 






5: Emotional Abuse - A Conversation with Danu Morrigan

Episode 2 is with Author Danu Morrigan who runs the brilliant website Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers (https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/) and has penned the best seller "You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother." Danu gives insight into the behaviour patterns of a narcissistic mother and enabling father and firsthand accounts of what it is like growing up in this kind of toxic environment. Passionate about putting into the public domain that it is OK not to have a relationship with your parents, Danu explains that it was to her detriment that she "bought into society's lies that you have to keep in touch with parents no matter how horrible they are to you" and that people don't have to pay the price of that with a lifetime of trauma and suffering.
Danu examines how some people's idea of narcissism is simply outwardly vain attention seeking individuals but there are various types including vulnerable narcissism, where the narcissistic parent sense of grandiose is much more inverted;  they think they deserve greatness, but are easily angered when they don't get it. Their need for control, to divide and conquer in their small bubble they have created can be subtle and calculated - they don't want to be caught out for the person they really are.

Emotionally abusive relationships, we talked about them in a romantic sense in series one of this podcast, in series two we delve into emotionally abusive parents; what that looks like, signs to look out for and what tools you need to help yourself, reconcile the damage caused when raised by narcissists and overcome a debilitating history, not to repeat or seek it out in adult relationships and reclaim your life. 



Jan Marsh has been a clinical psychologist for over 40 years and is the author of Dealing with Depression. Jan talks about her experience speaking with children of narcissistic mothers who grapple with pressure from society to constantly make excuses for them, because they are family.

4: Emotional Abuse - A Conversation with Jan Marsh

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