Life coach Tamara Lichfield shares with sisters Courtney and Carley the basics of healthy connection—communication styles to avoid and listening strategies to incorporate. This episode is part 1 in a 3-part series with Tamara about preparing oneself to make healthy connections. 

 

Resources

Connect with Tamara 

• http://www.becomingshatterproof.us
• https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof/

Connect with Courtney and Carley

• heysisterpodcast.org
• https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/
• https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodcast

 

Timeline

0:00 Introduction of guest expert and topic

 

4:00 Emotional check-in: self-regulation, expressing emotions including anger

 

12:00 Creating healthy connections—communications to avoid: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (plus antedates for each)

 

23:00 Parts of the brain: 1) Amygdala = primitive brain = survival brain = reptilian brain. 2) Prefrontal cortex = executive brain = logical brain. 

 

24:45 Healthy connection practices: listen more than you talk, make eye contact, watch for non-verbal cues, listen without judgment, be reflective, ask curiosity questions, keep body posture open, lean in, be comfortable with a little bit of silence, give undivided attention, be genuine with compliments and specific with praise 

 

28:00 Tangent about Win a Date with Tad Hamilton and the seven smiles

 

30:45 Final healthy connection practice (vulnerability), concluding thoughts, outtakes