Introduction

“When you hear the truth, listen.” -Will Luden

That is the subject of today’s 10-minute episode.

Continuing

For example, some yogurt containers have “Fruit at bottom.” printed on the outside. Isn’t that true for all of life? Isn’t the fruit that we want always at the bottom, where we have to work to get at it and enjoy it?

Scott Peck, writing in The Road Less Travelled, said essentially the same thing when he observed that life is hard. Life is hard, as it should be. That’s how we learn to lean into life, embracing the challenges, learning to be strong and persistent. And that’s how we learn enough about life and being strong in life to be able to help others. Ah, but we hear the siren call of, “If life is hard, that is proof that you are a victim. And victims deserve to be taken care of by the taxpayers.”

So, who is right, Mr. Peck and others who teach that life is hard as it should be, or the people who insist that if life is hard, something is wrong, and they promise to make it better for you? 

“Fruit at bottom,” is an obvious yogurt container truth, and we can see how it translates to life in general. Life is hard, and the fruit is at the bottom. We know that is true for us in our lives. We need politicians who know and respect that truth as well. The “If life is hard, you are a victim; here is a ton of taxpayer money.” politicians will destroy us--if we give them a chance. 

Let’s use another example. When returning a rental car at an airport, we drive over a row of one-way spikes, with a sign reading “Do not back up. Severe tire damage.” Isn’t that really good life advice? Keep our heads up, and keep moving. Hard or not, keep moving forward.

Let’s look at some bad pieces of often accepted so-called wisdom before we go back to genuine wisdom.

“Fake it until you make it.” We have all heard that one. The problem with this advice is that once you learn to fake things, it is hard to stop. Don’t fake anything, just don’t ever stop going forward. When asked for advice about succeeding, Winston Churchill responded, “I have nine words for you. Never give in. Never give in. Never give in.” He never said anything about faking anything. Note to politicians: Be yourself. How can voters make an informed decision if you are not true to yourself? Note to voters: Insist that politicians be real--regardless of whether or not you agree with their politics.

“If you ain’t cheating, you ain’t trying.” I am putting this one on the table for the sole purpose of taking it off the table--forever. If you cheat and win, what have you won? Answer. Nothing. If you cheat and lose, you have less than nothing. Note to politicians: Stop cheating. All of you. Shame on you. Note to voters: Zero tolerance for cheating politicians. None.

Let me share some wisdom I have personally picked up along the way--not in grocery stores or rental car lots.

“Parents will always love their children more than their children love them.” And that is how it should be. Parents at their best pour themselves into their children; it is not  a two-way street. The fruits of your parenting labors will not come back directly from your kids to you. The most you will see, the closest you can get to seeing your love returned, will be when your offspring treat others, perhaps your grandchildren, with the unconditional love that you gave them. Better yet, love unconditionally and then let go. 

Leadership, including political leadership, if that has not become an oxymoron, is the same. Lead your people, lead with all of your integrity, all of your heart, and all of your strength. Without any expectation that you will get your level of leadership and devotion in return. Just like parents need to love unconditionally with no expectation of getting that level of love in...