Hello sisters and welcome back to Sexyfit Podcast!

Today I want to talk about something that is essential when it comes to unstoppable self-confidence and creating strong self-esteem. It's establishing the boundaries in our life.

I want to describe how to recognize if you have a boundary issue, what a healthy boundary is , how to recognize examples of poor boundaries and how to set boundaries.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

1)The connection between boundaries and self-esteem and why we as women are not used to setting boundaries

2)What happens when you don’t have boundaries and give your all to a person or to your work

3)Why it’s important to have a set of boundaries in life and how to come from a place of self-love and self-worth

4)6 questions to ask yourself to find out if you have a boundary issue and what situations can point to it

5)What a boundary is, how it works and what it creates between people

6)The examples of poor boundaries and how moms are most tempted to have poor boundaries

7)How to strengthen your identity and protect what’s important to you by setting boundaries

8)2 main reasons why we lack boundaries and how they create the inability to stand up for ourselves

9)How to find out if you need to create a boundary by tapping into your feelings

10)How to communicate your needs in a direct way and gain respect for it

A boundary is taking responsibility for your own actions and emotions while not taking responsibility for the actions and emotions of others.

If you answer YES to any of the following questions, you might have a boundary issue:

1)Do you ever feel like people take advantage of you and use your emotions for their own gain?

2)Do you ever feel like you constantly have to save people or fix their problems?

3)Do you find yourself set into pointless fighting and debates?

4)Do you feel yourself far more invested and attracted to another person than you should be for how long you’ve known them?

5)Do you tell people how much you hate drama but always end up in the middle of it?

6)Do you feel like you spend a lot of time defending yourself for things you believe aren’t your fault?

Examples of poor boundaries:

1) If you have that friend who always wants to go out with you and doesn’t give you any personal space

2) If you have a boyfriend who likes to buy half of your wardrobe or do things without your permission

3) If you feel like you constantly have to fix problems for people at work

4) If you want to take that job but your mom would never approve moving that far away

Why do we lack boundaries?

1)We have a high level of neediness

2)Taking the blame for other people’s emotions and actions

How to create a boundary?

1)Identify the feeling

The best way to find out if you need to create a boundary with a certain person or situation is to tap into your own feelings. How do you feel about the situation? If it makes you feel in any way bad, it's time to set a boundary.

2)Be direct

Communicate your needs in a way that they don't sound needy. Come from a place of transparency and explain why this is a boundary you need to set. Trust me, others will respect you for doing this and they will pay closer attention to your needs in the future.

But before creating boundaries with others, think about creating boundaries with yourself first. Do you need space, time for being alone, reading time, meditation? Share your boundaries with us in our Sexyfit private group and have an amazing weekend ladies!

With love,
Zlata

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LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST:

The Guide to Strong Boundaries by Mark Manson http://markmanson.net/boundaries  

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