Either we’re asleep or we’re awake. Either we’re consciously aware of something or we’re not.

But we don’t become awake from reading books or having conversations. We wake up when we experience things, and we experience things differently based on our mindset.

 

Mindset Shift #1 – Don’t Get Wrapped Up in the Things You Can’t Control.

• I don’t necessarily think politics is the problem, I just don’t think it’s the solution.
• Other individuals will not solve your problems or improve your life.

 

Mindset Shift #2 – Loving & Accepting Every Experience

• Accepting the fullness of an experience will allow you to see the good in the bad, and it will help you learn to love every present moment.
• When you’re doing things you don’t particularly like, you can learn to love them because you know those things serve your greater purpose.
• When we experience hard times, we tend to quickly judge those as bad experiences. When we make that snap judgement, we miss the bigger picture of what we’re experiencing.

 

Mindset Shift #3 – Being a Victim Vs. Being Victimized

• We’ve all been victimized. We’ll be victimized intermittently throughout the rest of our lives.
• The difference between being victimized and being a victim is that being a victim is a role we assume, and it is a role that sheds responsibility for the circumstances we have been given that have been out of our control.
• What is in our control is our ability to react and be proactive

 

Mindset Shift #4 – Don’t Waste Energy on Can’t

• If you want to find an excuse to not do something, you will always find an excuse.
• Excuses can be real – that doesn’t mean you have to focus your energy and attention on them.
• It’s a choice to find reasons why you can’t or reasons why you can. In almost every situation, there are reasons for both.

 

Mindset Shift #5 – You Don’t Have to Have All the Answers to Start

• As a therapist, we often feel that we need to have all of the answers before we can help solve someone’s problems. But the reality is we can’t. We’re never going to have all the answers.
• You don’t need to be the ultimate subject expert to start anything, because that’s all subjective.
• The answers that you need to apply aren’t necessarily coming from other people’s information. Your answers come from your experiences.

 

Mindset Shift #6 – Don’t Be Afraid to Show Up

• When you try to meet other people’s expectations, you can’t fully show up.
• You can’t be the thing you think other people want. Not everyone will like what you do, but there’s plenty of people who will embrace who and what you are.
• You have to understand and recognize what you show up as. If you show up, you have to understand that there’s value in that.
• We want to see people and things that are true and aren’t hidden by an agenda. People love authenticity, whether we realize it consciously or not.

 

Mindset Shift #7 – Embrace Stoic Philosophy

• “The single most important practice in stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can’t.” –The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
• Stoicism helps you look at the neutral nature of the universe. It responds to what you put out there.

I truly believe the world will start to change when we all start recognizing what we have internally as valuable, and when we recognize that the things we put out into the world are valuable.

Act. Do. Try. Don’t be afraid of failing.

 

Resources:

• The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living by Ryan Holiday
• “What Is Stoicism? A Definition & 3 Stoic Exercises To Get You Started”

 

Interested in learning more about how I can help you through coaching?  Find out more at www.johnharrisoncounseling.com/individual-coaching/

 

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