Anger in a relationship often feels like it is caused by the other person.

Their behavior, their choices, their lack of follow through. But what if it's something else entirely?

Instead, your anger may not be about their actions but about their potential.

In this episode of the Bite-Sized Brilliance Podcast, Dr. April Darley explores partner dynamics through the lens of self-agency, expectations, and perception.

Drawing from patterns she has seen repeatedly in her coaching work, she unpacks why frustration and resentment often arise when we expect others to live by an internal playbook they do not know exists.

This conversation expands beyond romantic partnerships to include business partners, coworkers, and close relationships. It invites listeners into a deeper level of honesty about choice, willingness, and accountability.

Rather than offering relationship advice that focuses on fixing the other person, this episode centers on clarity, discernment, and personal power.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

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🕒 Episode Breakdown with Timestamps

00:00 Patterns in partner conflict and why this topic keeps showing up

01:00 Anger as an umbrella emotion

02:00 The internal playbook and subconscious expectations

03:00 Why no one is a mind reader

04:00 Self agency and the myth of “I can’t”

05:00 Staying vs leaving and choosing your strategy

06:00 Free will and consequences

07:00 Readiness, willingness, and change

08:00 What behavior triggered the anger

09:00 Anger at actions vs anger at unmet potential

10:00 Empathy, ideals, and disappointment

11:00 Choosing to stay for love vs fear or comfort

12:00 Honest self-reflection and accountability

13:00 Communication, alignment, and mutual growth

14:00 Discernment, patience, and personal power

15:00 Identity, mindset, and reclaiming agency

16:00 Offers, support, and next steps