In this episode of A New Way to Love, Live and Lead, Cheryne Blom explores one of the most powerful themes in personal transformation — the journey from self-abandonment to self-connection.

So many of us reach midlife feeling accomplished on the outside yet quietly disconnected on the inside. We’ve spent decades caring for others, building careers, holding it all together — and somewhere along the way, we forgot to include ourselves.

Cheryne explains why self-connection is the foundation of self-love, emotional maturity, and confidence, and how the subtle patterns of self-abandonment — people-pleasing, over-giving, ignoring our needs — slowly erode self-trust.

You’ll learn how to notice when you’ve slipped into disconnection, how to reconnect through her signature Habit of Connection practice, and how every small act of honesty brings you closer to your essence.

“Self-abandonment is what happens when you disconnect from your truth to stay connected to others. Self-connection is remembering that your truth is your home.” — Cheryne Blom

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• The difference between self-abandonment and self-connection

  Subtle signs you’ve drifted away from yourself (and how to recognise them)

• How fear and people-pleasing keep us stuck in old emotional patterns

  Why self-connection is the antidote to anxiety, reactivity, and overwhelm

• The Habit of Connection — Cheryne’s 4-step process to rebuild self-trust and inner calm

• How reconnecting with yourself improves relationships, resilience, and joy

Key Takeaway Quote:

“Your essence isn’t something you have to find — it’s something you remember. Every pause, every breath, every moment of honesty brings you back home.”

💡 Reflection Question :

“Where have I been abandoning myself lately — and what’s one loving act of reconnection I can take today?”

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👉 And remember: Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s your awakening. Self-connection is the key step to coming home to yourself.

Thank you for being a part of my community!

With gratitude and love,

Cheryne X