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Ep 12 | Contrarian Mindset
In this episode of 360 Alpha, Kabir Wats tackles the nuanced concept of a “Contrarian Mindset” within the context of dating and relationships.
He dissects the familiar adage "Nice guys finish last," proposing that the real issue lies not in kindness itself but in losing one's sense of self in the process of trying to please others. Kabir illuminates how adopting a contrarian approach—balancing genuine niceness with assertiveness and maintaining one's values and boundaries—can lead to healthier, more attractive relational dynamics.
The first part of the podcast addresses the dilemma of a listener who finds himself constantly initiating and planning in his dating life, only to feel unreciprocated and drained. Kabir challenges the conventional "chase" mentality, advising on the power of strategic patience and allowing space for pursuit. Kabir argues this approach alleviates personal pressure and enhances attraction by fostering a healthy balance of energy and interest.
In the second segment, Kabir responds to a listener struggling with conflict resolution within his relationship. Rather than rushing to smooth over disagreements, Kabir suggests a contrarian strategy of embracing patience and providing space for both partners to reflect. This method underscores the importance of approaching conflicts with a clear, calm mind, aiming for resolutions that strengthen the relationship's foundation through empathy, respect, and mutual understanding.
Throughout the episode, Kabir emphasizes that embodying a contrarian mindset doesn't mean deviating from being nice or kind but integrating those qualities with a strong sense of self, clear boundaries, and patience. This balance, he notes, is key to being perceived as a strong, alpha leader in a relationship.
Kabir's insights offer a fresh perspective on cultivating a magnetic, authentic presence that commands respect and admiration without compromising kindness or empathy.
Highlights: Navigating the fine line between being genuinely nice and overly accommodating, the importance of assertiveness and personal boundaries in enhancing attraction, strategic patience in dating, and a thoughtful, reflective approach to conflict resolution in relationships.
Links & Resources:
'Are You A 360 Alpha?' Book and Audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TZ46D55
Personalized Sessions: https://www.360-alpha.com/pages/coaching
Free E-book: https://www.360-alpha.com/pages/are-you-a-360-alpha
Contact Us: Email your questions for future episodes to [email protected]
Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/360alpha_official
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By 360 AlphaIn this episode of 360 Alpha, Kabir Wats tackles the nuanced concept of a “Contrarian Mindset” within the context of dating and relationships.
He dissects the familiar adage "Nice guys finish last," proposing that the real issue lies not in kindness itself but in losing one's sense of self in the process of trying to please others. Kabir illuminates how adopting a contrarian approach—balancing genuine niceness with assertiveness and maintaining one's values and boundaries—can lead to healthier, more attractive relational dynamics.
The first part of the podcast addresses the dilemma of a listener who finds himself constantly initiating and planning in his dating life, only to feel unreciprocated and drained. Kabir challenges the conventional "chase" mentality, advising on the power of strategic patience and allowing space for pursuit. Kabir argues this approach alleviates personal pressure and enhances attraction by fostering a healthy balance of energy and interest.
In the second segment, Kabir responds to a listener struggling with conflict resolution within his relationship. Rather than rushing to smooth over disagreements, Kabir suggests a contrarian strategy of embracing patience and providing space for both partners to reflect. This method underscores the importance of approaching conflicts with a clear, calm mind, aiming for resolutions that strengthen the relationship's foundation through empathy, respect, and mutual understanding.
Throughout the episode, Kabir emphasizes that embodying a contrarian mindset doesn't mean deviating from being nice or kind but integrating those qualities with a strong sense of self, clear boundaries, and patience. This balance, he notes, is key to being perceived as a strong, alpha leader in a relationship.
Kabir's insights offer a fresh perspective on cultivating a magnetic, authentic presence that commands respect and admiration without compromising kindness or empathy.
Highlights: Navigating the fine line between being genuinely nice and overly accommodating, the importance of assertiveness and personal boundaries in enhancing attraction, strategic patience in dating, and a thoughtful, reflective approach to conflict resolution in relationships.
Links & Resources:
'Are You A 360 Alpha?' Book and Audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TZ46D55
Personalized Sessions: https://www.360-alpha.com/pages/coaching
Free E-book: https://www.360-alpha.com/pages/are-you-a-360-alpha
Contact Us: Email your questions for future episodes to [email protected]
Follow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/360alpha_official