Have you ever felt like you’re running into the same invisible walls in your life?

Maybe it’s in your relationships, where you keep finding yourself in the same dynamic over and over. Maybe it’s a constant, humming anxiety you can’t quite explain. Or maybe it’s just a persistent feeling of being ‘stuck,’ like you’re paddling as hard as you can, but the current keeps pulling you back.

If any of that resonates, it’s not because you’re failing. It’s because you’re operating from a blueprint that was created long ago, and most of us were never taught how to read it. Our past experiences, especially those from childhood, create the foundation for our adult lives—how we connect, how we react to stress, and the beliefs we hold about ourselves.

For years in my work, I’ve seen how transformative it is when a person finally gets access to their own blueprint. The confusion gives way to clarity. The self-blame is replaced by self-compassion.

That is why I created a brand-new, free tool that I am so excited to share with you. It’s called the HURRT Self-Assessment, which stands for Healing UnResolved Roots of Trauma.

Today, I want to give you a brief tour of this powerful assessment, so you can see how it can provide the roadmap you’ve been missing.

A Tour of Your Own Story

The HURRT Self-Assessment is broken down into three critical sections. Each one helps to paint a more complete picture of your blueprint.

Part 1: Adverse & Intergenerational Experiences This section looks at the tangible ‘rocks’ in your backpack. Based on the groundbreaking ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study, it explores the clear link between difficult childhood events and adult well-being. But it also goes a step further, asking about the subtle, inherited patterns of intergenerational trauma. Sometimes the anxiety we feel isn’t even ours; it’s a pattern of worry we learned from our parents, who learned it from theirs. This section helps you see those connections.

Part 2: Emotional Neglect This is often the hardest part for people to identify, because it’s not about what did happen; it’s about what didn’t happen. Emotional neglect is the absence of having your feelings seen, heard, and validated as a child. For many, this section provides the biggest ‘aha’ moment, giving a name to a lifelong feeling of emptiness or loneliness they could never quite place.

Part 3: Strengths & Support Systems This is the most important part. You are not just your wounds; you are also your incredible capacity to heal. This section helps you identify the “gold.” It measures your resilience factors—the trusted adult who believed in you, the hobby that helped you cope, the inner strength that got you through. These are the points of light and the foundation upon which we build healing.

Your Score is Not a Label—It’s a Starting Point

Once you complete the assessment, you’ll instantly get a score that places you in one of four tiers.

I need to say this very clearly: This score is not a judgment. It is not a label. It is not a measure of your worth. It is simply a measurement of the weight in your backpack. It’s a starting point for compassion.

The goal isn’t to feel bad; it’s to finally be able to say, “Oh, that’s why I feel this way. It all makes sense.” That self-validation is where true healing begins.

Acknowledging the weight of your backpack is the only way you can begin to gently set it down. Taking this assessment is an act of courage and profound self-care. It’s you, telling yourself: ‘My story matters. I matter. And I am ready for clarity.’

If you feel ready, I personally invite you to take the assessment now. It’s completely free, 100% private, and takes about 10 minutes to complete.

Click Here to Take the Free HURRT Self-Assessment

Link: https://www.flipyourmindset.com/hurrt

You deserve to understand your own story.

With support,

Stacey Uhrig

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