This is the other side of the story. 

In this deeply honest follow-up to “Avoidant Men CAN Heal,” we hear from Brittany—somatic experiencing practitioner, attachment re-patterning guide, and James’s partner—about her lived experience navigating anxious attachment, rupture, and the long, disorienting path of healing. 

We talk about what it felt like when James said “you’re not the one” in front of a room full of people, how heartbreak cracked her open, and what it really took to rebuild herself—body, mind, and spirit—after the breakup. 

Brittany shares the tools that held her through the spiral, the rage and tenderness she had to reclaim, and how practicing devotion (not just processing) changed everything. 

We explore:

→ The somatic reality of anxious attachment and what healing actually feels like

→ How to tell the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum

→ Why spiritual compatibility matters—and why it doesn’t mean sameness

→ What intimacy practice looks like now in her marriage to James

→ How relationship can become a sacred, daily path to presence 

This conversation is a balm for anyone who’s ever clung to crumbs of connection, doubted their worth, or wondered if they’d ever feel safe in love again. 

If you're healing, holding on, or learning how to let go—this one is for you. 

Work With Brittany 

Touching the Earth Somatics

Song: 

Ayla Nereo “Seeds"