At a work dinner, someone told me I should move cities, marry a rich man, and quit my job. I strutted out of the restaurant channeling Cher — “I am a rich man” — but on the drive home, I felt deeply misunderstood. In this episode, I unpack what it’s like to be projected onto, the discomfort of feeling unseen, and how that moment pushed me to ask a new question: How can I make sure I’m fully seeing myself?

If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling small, underestimated, or erased — this one’s for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 They told me to marry a rich man

06:53 Unseen, underestimated, & misunderstood

10:17 How can I see myself?

16:26 Have your own sh*t going for you

20:00 The world is your playground

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