Why Your Body Doesn’t Believe You’re Safe

Have you ever felt like you could logically list all the reasons why you should be fine, yet your body is telling a completely different story? Maybe it is a tightness in your chest, a clenched jaw, or a stomach that never quite feels settled.

This disconnect between what you know and what you feel is one of the most misunderstood aspects of trauma. When I say your body doesn’t believe you’re safe, I don’t necessarily mean you feel like you are in immediate danger. Instead, it often shows up as a constant state of readiness.

Readiness vs. Fear

For many of us, this lack of internal safety doesn’t look like panic; it looks like being “on edge” even when things are calm. It shows up as:

* Difficulty fully relaxing even when nothing is wrong.

* Feeling uncomfortable the moment you sit down to rest.

* Holding your breath without realizing it.

* Feeling calmer during a crisis than during quiet moments.

Your nervous system hasn’t learned how to stand down yet. It is scanning your history, not your current facts, to decide if you are safe. If your past taught you that safety was unpredictable, your body stays braced for protection.

The Language of Safety

You cannot simply convince your body it is safe through logic, but you can help it experience safety. Healing begins when we stop arguing with our bodies and start listening to them. We have to move past “neck up” solutions and understand how the mind and body interact through the nervous system.

As we move through 2026, my goal is to bring you more of these solo episodes to share the tools and data needed to heal from the inside out. We cannot heal what we do not understand.

Take Action

If you are ready to connect the dots between your lived experience and your current sensations, I invite you to use the resources below:

* Take the HURRT Survey: This “Healing Unresolved Roots of Trauma” survey is designed to help you understand how your past may be impacting you today. Click here to take the HURRT Survey.

* Join the Free Live Class (Feb 10): Tomorrow, I am hosting “What Is Anxiety, Really?” to help you reframe anxiety as a protective response rather than a flaw. We have two sessions available:

* Afternoon: 12:00 PM – 1:00 PM EDT

* Evening: 7:00 PM – 8:00 PM EDT Register for the Masterclass Here

I look forward to seeing you there and helping you find the missing link in your healing process.

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