Whether you like it or not, your triggers will come knocking at the door whenever they want. So it pays to be always ready when they do. 

In this episode, let's delve into the topics of triggers, trauma responses, and how to move forward from them. 

We learned a lot from this episode. We know that you will too, so tune in. 

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: 

What a ‘trigger’ really is [3:41]

• The inability to be present because of something that’s happened in the past 

• Something that causes an emotional distress 

• Remembering your trauma and responding to it 

• Your triggers can’t be forgotten, but you can heal from it 

• People tend to develop coping mechanisms as response to triggers 

• Triggers are not a bad thing at all—they’re learning experiences 

“When I’m hysterical, it’s historical” [13:06]

• Leaving the present (and the future), going back to the unchangeable past, and operating from that place 

• Running away from what hurts you is a band-aid solution; you’ll eventually have to face it

The haze of triggers [16:44]

• The difficulty to identify triggers 

• The mentality to cope with triggers triggers doesn’t come easy, especially for men, who have been wired to be strong 

• The inability to move forward because of second-guessing yourself

Navigating the haze [20:42]

• Naming your triggers and saying the out loud 

• Learning about new ways to cope—the method that you’re doing before might not be the best way to cope now 

• “Forgiving and forgetting” may not be real 

• Give yourself grace that you could pass on to others 

• Finding a mentor/loved one/friend/professional that would support you 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Listen to Make It Home by Tobe Nwigwe

Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday

Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve by Tracy McMillan

Shook One by Charlamagne Tha God

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