Keywords: narcissism, healing, relationships, childhood trauma, emotional abuse, support systems, personal growth, therapy, self-discovery, empowerment, healing, self-preservation, group therapy, fostering, forgiveness, compassion, transpersonal psychology, thriving, spirituality, mental health 'Summary: In this episode of 'Thriving Not Surviving', host Helen Valentino welcomes her best friend Eleanor, a psychotherapeutic counsellor, to share her journey of overcoming childhood adversity and navigating relationships marked by narcissistic traits. Eleanor discusses her challenging upbringing, the impact of her stepmother's behaviour, and her eventual decision to leave toxic relationships. The conversation delves into the complexities of narcissism, the importance of support systems, and the healing journey that follows. Eleanor offers insights and practical advice for those who may find themselves in similar situations, emphasizing the need for self-discovery and empowerment. In this conversation, Helen Valentino and Eleanor explore the themes of healing, self-preservation, and the importance of support systems in overcoming trauma. The conversation also delves into the concepts of forgiveness and compassion, emphasizing their roles in personal healing. Eleanor shares her journey into transpersonal psychology, highlighting the integration of spirituality in therapeutic practices. Finally, they reflect on the difference between thriving and merely surviving, underscoring the joy and purpose that can be found in everyday life.

Takeaways

·       Eleanor's childhood was marked by her early loss of her mother and subsequent difficulties with a stepmother with strong narcissistic traits.

·       She learned to suppress her feelings to please others, leading to difficulties in adult relationships.

·       Leaving an emotionally abusive relationship was a long and challenging process for Eleanor.

·       Healing involves recognizing and addressing childhood trauma and its effects on adult life.

·       Narcissistic behaviours often stem from deep-rooted insecurities and past traumas.

·       Gaslighting is a common tactic used by narcissists to manipulate their victims. Support networks are crucial for those trying to escape toxic relationships.

·       Books and resources can provide valuable insights and support for healing, Going no contact with toxic family members can lead to personal liberation and growth.

·       Eleanor emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and empowerment in the healing journey. Forgiveness is freeing and essential for healing.

·       Thriving means finding joy in everyday actions. Compassion starts with self-compassion. Healing is a journey, not a destination.

Titles

• Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the daughters of narcissistic mothers Karyl McBride ISBN 1416551328
• How To Divorce a Narcissist and succeed in the family court Diana Jordan ISBN 97817398159
• The Body Keeps The Score –
• The Narcissist Trap – The mindbending pull of the great pretenders – Dr Supriya McKenna ISBN 9781739493608
• The Sweet Revenge of Blooming – Flavia Dragani ISBN 9788831344142

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