I’m saying the quiet part out loud. This is the truth I’ve had to walk through myself: the biggest reason women feel exhausted in business isn’t because they’re doing too much, it’s because they’re underutilized.

We’re trying to contain our power, hold back our energy, and stay “safe” because deep down we’re afraid that if we go all in, if we actually let our energy rip, no one will be able to handle us. That we’ll blow out our relationships, that we’ll outgrow our partners, that we’ll lose the people who love us. I lived in that myself for a few years. I shrank myself to make others try to salvage relationships. I made myself small so I wouldn’t have to face being too much. And it was the most exhausting season of my life.

The reckoning is this: your power is not fragile. Your energy is not a liability. The only thing burning you out is playing small, keeping one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake, and refusing to trust yourself and God to hold you at your fullest expression.

This episode is me speaking to the unrelatability of being too much, of daring to be bigger than anyone thought possible, and of realizing that even if every relationship fell away, it would still be worth it to live a life fully lit in your power.

 Inside this episode:

• Why exhaustion is a symptom of being underutilized, not overworked
• The fear of being “too much” and how it sabotages your potential
• How shrinking yourself to keep people comfortable drains your energy
• The reckoning I faced in my own relationship with Patrick around power, money, and bigness
• Why safety is an illusion and why exposure and risk are required to evolve
• The cost of not trusting yourself to go over the edge with your own power
• How trusting God and yourself unlocks limitless energy, vitality, and impact

 Quotes:

“Exhaustion comes from being underutilized, not from being too much.”

“Your power is not fragile. It’s the most renewable resource you have.”

“One foot on the gas, one foot on the brake, that’s why you’re tired.”

“I realized I was more exhausted shrinking myself than I ever was in my full capacity.”

“Even if my bigness cost me every relationship, it would still be worth it.”

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