Ep 212 | A Mindful Reiki Meditation: Acknowledging Difficult Emotions on Mother’s Day

Some have a joyful and loving relationship with their mom. For others, Mother’s Day can be a day where we pull out our complex feelings about mothering and try to sort through them. Today, we are going to do a Mindful Reiki + Reflection to support you to unpack them, if you are ready, and also bring in some healing Light to help as well.

Mother’s Day can be lovely—it’s a day to focus on the people who raised us. There’s plenty of beauty in that, but it might also come with anger, grief, or a feeling of loss. 

The mother wound is a phrase that relates to the difficulty many of us have had in this relationship, even if our mothers were mostly amazing. Mothers play such an important role in our lives, especially when we’re small babies. We can rely on them for our food, our sleep, our comfort, our learning— everything in our lives as babies. That’s a lot to ask of a human being who may have her own pain and trauma that she is also trying to manage. Not to mention what might be going on with the fathers in the situation.

For some of us, the mother wound may be intergenerational. Our mothers may have been hurt by their mothers in the same way that they hurt us. Systemic injustices and trauma can be downloaded from one generation to the next. In the worst cases, our mothers’ wounds caused them to be neglectful or even abusive, leaving us with a legacy of pain to process in our lives. Sometimes we are not always able to heal the whole line of women in our ancestry in one lifetime. Regardless of everything else going on in terms of this humaning - asking to heal an entire lineage - can be a lot to ask - especially if still fresh in the trauma.

Many women also question whether or not they want to become parents. Some of us don’t. Some of us want to but can’t. Some of us have healthy children but experienced years of infertility or pregnancy loss. Some of us are parents who don’t identify with a gender and feel left out on both Mother’s and Father’s Day.

Mother's Day can also be a day to reflect and take time to pull out our complex feelings about mothering and workshop where we are with it. This could be a day where we honor the mothers and mother figures in our lives but also honor the complex emotions this brings up in us.

There are many ways to think about this day. Are we celebrating a biological mother? Are we honoring our intention to become mothers, however, that has gone for us? Are we grieving a lost mother, holding her in our hearts and minds? Are we holding space for our own anger and disappointment that our mothers weren’t what we needed them to be? Perhaps it’s a combination of those things.

We must also ask ourselves how we can better mother ourselves in our day-to-day lives. What did we need from our mothers that we did not get? How could we show up for ourselves and meet our own needs in that way?

Now let’s chat about another Mother that is always there for you - Mother Earth. It is also an opportunity to celebrate Gaia Mother Earth, our spiritual mothers, as well as to honor the influence of all mothers in society. And also the Divine Feminine. If you can, connect to that Divine Feminine energy. This energy is Love. Letting it nurture you. Bringing loving kindness, compassion, and understanding brings insight, intuition, creativity, forgiveness, healing, wisdom, and grace that is here for you. Tune in for this Mindful Reiki Meditation now!

May peace be with you

Much Love,

Henri