Becoming a parent is a huge transition for all of us one that is often poorly supported. We often receive lots of guidance with regard to caring for the baby but little regarding the rite of passage of becoming a mother or father; the identity change and how that impacts on our sense of self.

Today I talk to Carla Crivaro, a sex, love and relationship coaching who works with men and omen to achieve their goals in delicious sex, profound love and authentic relationships. Carla creates awareness around men's transition into parenthood where they can feel isolated, rejected and miss intimacy with their partner. She has named this phenomenon The Forgotten Father.

This episode is centred in a dynamic of cis gender, heterosexual relationship. However as we are talking about dynamics in family systems and the roles we can take up in those systems you may find his information helpful if that Cis/hetero partnership does not reflect your own relationship dynamic.

In this episode we talk about:

- The journey of parenthood for men and what some of the patterns can be when they are not coping,

- ow they can into really unhealthy systemic patterns with a female partner when she steps into the role of mother,

- That men’s hormones do change when the new baby arrives so that they can bond with the baby and provide support and love to their partner,

- That men can also experience birth trauma and how this can impact them,

- What inner work is helpful for men to participate in to shift the relationship dynamics that are not supporting their transition to fatherhood and learning to co-parent with their partner.

You can find Carla and www.carlacrivaro.com or @the.forgotten.father on instagram.