Confident and Empowered Women

EP 265. Energetic Availability — Why You Keep Attracting What You Don’t Actually Want


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ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Energetic availability is the real reason you keep attracting patterns, relationships, and situations you swear you’re done with. In this episode, we’re breaking down why manifestation isn’t magic — it’s nervous system availability — and how your energy is speaking long before you ever say what you want.

If you’ve been clear about what you don’t want but still feel stuck attracting it anyway, this conversation will change how you see dating, manifestation, and self-trust. We’re talking about how fear-led energy keeps you focused on avoidance, why your nervous system defaults to what feels familiar, and how shifting from survival to safety changes what can actually meet you.

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?” and ready to own who she is, what she wants, and what she’s no longer available for — energetically, emotionally, and spiritually.

KEY TAKEAWAYS
  1. Clarity Insight: You don’t attract what you want — you attract what you’re energetically available for.
  2. Truth Bomb: Your nervous system signals familiarity before your words ever do.
  3. Empowering Shift: Focusing on what you don’t want keeps your energy oriented toward it.
  4. Action: Releasing old patterns and regulating toward what you desire builds real receiving capacity.
  5. Main Character Takeaway: When you own who you are and what you want, misaligned energy stops sticking.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Why Does This Keep Happening?

00:59 Understanding Energetic Availability

02:23 Personal Story: Attracting the Opposite

02:56 The Breakthrough: Manifestation Isn't Magic

06:57 Fear-Led Choices vs. Faith-Led Energy

10:52 Practical Steps: The Self-Love Two-Step

12:03 Embracing New Feelings and Alignments

14:19 Final Thoughts: Attracting Differently

THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: The Availability Reset

Alright, this is where insight turns into embodiment. The Availability Reset helps you shift from fear-led attraction into faith-led receiving — without forcing belief or bypassing your body. This practice teaches your nervous system what you’re no longer open for and what you’re learning to safely receive. That’s how your energy actually changes.

Step 1: Release the Old Signal

Ask yourself: “What am I no longer energetically available for — even if it feels familiar?”

Name it clearly. Saying it out loud creates energetic closure.

🪞 Step 2: Regulate Into Desire

Ask: “What does it feel like in my body to receive what I want?”

Breathe into whatever comes up — calm, fear, tenderness, resistance — without judgment. This builds safety, not pressure. Because when your body feels safe receiving, your life responds differently.

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Confident and Empowered WomenBy Letitia Hopkins