In this episode, we unpack the two big apology patterns that show up in relationships: avoiding apologies altogether and apologizing way too much. Scott talks about why some people struggle to say “I’m sorry” — how it can feel like losing, admitting something they don’t believe, or triggering shame instead of repair. Angie brings the opposite perspective, sharing what it’s like to over-apologize, take on blame that isn’t yours, and default to “sorry” even when nothing is wrong.

Together, we dig into the psychology behind both extremes, how they create tension in relationships, and why couples often bounce between the two. We also talk about healthier ways to repair, how to apologize without betraying yourself, and how to stop using apologies as a peacekeeping strategy.

If you’ve ever wondered why apologizing feels so hard — or why you can’t stop apologizing — this episode will hit home and help you find a better middle ground.

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