How many times have you said “this is my year”… only to look up months later and realize nothing actually changed?

In this episode of Confident & Empowered Women, we’re having a real, honest conversation about why self-sabotage happens, why follow-through breaks down, and what finally changes when you stop negotiating with yourself and start deciding—and taking action to back it up.

Through a personal story (heavy on the years), this episode breaks down how internal bargaining keeps us stuck, why wanting more isn’t the same as choosing more, and how life begins to blossom when you decide to show up differently—not perfectly, just honestly.

This isn’t about saying it louder.

It’s about becoming different.

1. Why saying “this is my year” doesn’t work without aligned action
2. How internal bargaining disguises itself as patience and self-compassion
3. The real reason follow-through keeps falling apart
4. What changed when I stopped waiting for circumstances to shift and chose differently
5. How making clean decisions ends self-sabotage
6. Why raising your self-standard builds self-trust
7. What it looks like to become unavailable for your old self
8. How to act as the woman already living her dream life

00:00 Introduction: Stop Negotiating with Yourself

00:29 Welcome to Confident and Empowered Women

01:40 The Cycle of Self-Sabotage

02:06 Personal Story: The Turning Point

05:05 The Power of Clean Decisions

10:26 Self-Love Two Step: From Negotiation to Devotion

11:57 Final Thoughts: Take Action Today

15:23 Conclusion: Live Intentionally

Because inspiration without action fades—and this is where the shift becomes real.

Step 1: Radical Self-Honesty

Naming where your actions don’t match your desires—without shame or judgment. Clarity is self-love.

Step 2: Devotional Action

Taking one aligned action, without delay or drama. Self-love is how you show up, not just how you speak to yourself.

These steps matter because they turn awareness into embodiment and intention into self-trust.

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**Music: It’s Easy to Love You