Confident and Empowered Women

EP 276. Right Before You Say “It’s Fine”


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Friend… let’s be honest.

Most of the time, “it’s fine” is not fine. It’s the moment right before you abandon yourself to keep the peace.

In this episode, we slow way down and talk about that exact moment — the pause, the tightening, the choice to smooth things over instead of staying with yourself. This is a conversation about real confidence, self-trust, and why confidence isn’t built by feeling ready… it’s built by what you do when things feel uncomfortable.

If you’ve ever over-explained, gone quiet, minimized your needs, or told yourself “it’s not worth it,” this episode will feel like I’m sitting right next to you on the couch saying, “I see you — and there’s another way.”

WHAT WE GET INTO

1️⃣ “It’s fine” is rarely about peace — it’s about protection. Most of the time, you’re choosing safety over honesty.

2️⃣ Your nervous system isn’t asking if something is aligned — it’s asking if connection is at risk. Discomfort means unfamiliar, not wrong.

3️⃣ Self-abandonment doesn’t happen loudly. It happens politely — through minimizing, over-explaining, and keeping the vibe light.

4️⃣ Confidence isn’t built by feeling ready. It’s built in the pause — when you don’t smooth it over or disappear.

5️⃣ Main Character Energy is rooted, not dramatic. It’s staying with yourself even when the moment feels awkward.

🌿 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: The Stay Practice

Confidence doesn’t grow from insight alone — it grows from what you practice. The Stay Practice is how you stop leaving yourself in real time.

First, you stay — pause long enough to notice the sensation before you override yourself. No fixing. No explaining. Just presence.

Then, you honor — redirect your loyalty back to yourself with one small act of self-respect instead of politeness.

This matters because every time you stay with yourself, you rebuild self-trust — and confidence comes back online naturally.

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Confident and Empowered WomenBy Letitia Hopkins