Confident and Empowered Women

EP 281. You're Not Attracting the Wrong People — You're Tolerating Them


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You don't have a people problem. You have a settling problem. And today we are fixing that.

In this episode I'm breaking down the real reason the wrong people keep showing up in your life — and giving you two powerful frameworks plus a Self Love 2 Step to actually do something about it starting TODAY.

Friend, that person who keeps draining you? You already knew. Your gut told you early. The signs were there. So why did you stay?

That's exactly what we're getting into. This is your mirror moment AND your movement — because awareness without action is just a really emotional therapy session. We're not leaving without a plan. 💅🏾

WHAT WE GET INTO

✦ Why you're not attracting the wrong people — you're tolerating them ✦ The S.E.T.T.L.E. Framework™ — 6 root causes of why we accept less than we deserve ✦ The ONE signature question to ask about every relationship in your life ✦ The O.W.N. I.T.™ Framework — five steps back to your full price self ✦ The Self Love 2 Step — two things you can do TODAY to start the shift ✦ Why familiar isn't the same as safe — and comfortable isn't the same as aligned ✦ How to stop waiting for someone to recognize your worth — and recognize it yourself first

CHAPTERS

00:00 Real Talk: You Don’t Have a People Problem—You Have a Settling Problem

01:02 Series Reset: Unavailable for Self-Abandonment & Building Self-Trust

02:32 You’re Not Attracting the Wrong People—You’re Tolerating Them (Today’s Roadmap)

03:40 Spot the Pattern: The Person Who Shows Up Less Than You Deserve

05:11 The SETTLE Framework (6 Root Causes) — Why You Stay

11:13 The Signature Question: If They Never Changed, Would You Still Choose Them?

12:05 Access Audit: Who Gets VIP, Cheap Seats, or Outside the Club?

13:56 The Solution: OWN IT — 5 Steps Back to Your Full-Price Self

19:58 Build Momentum: Main Character Momentum Builder (Support System)

20:50 Self-Love Two-Step: The Mirror Move + The Love Deposit

23:22 Let Me Pour Into You Real Quick: You’re Worthy of People Who Show Up

26:05 Final Assignment + Subscribe/Review + Closing Encouragement

THE SELF LOVE 2 STEP

Step 1 — The Mirror Move Ask the signature question about the top three relationships in your life right now: "If this person never changed — would I still want them here?" Write down the names. Write down the honest answers. No editing. No softening. Just the truth.

Step 2 — The Love Deposit Immediately after — do one thing that is purely, completely, unapologetically for YOU. Not productive you. Not helpful you. Just you. One love deposit. Straight into your own account.

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Confident and Empowered WomenBy Letitia Hopkins