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Ep. 3 - Asking Without Apologizing

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EPISODE 3: Asking Without Apologizing 


Title: Asking Without Apologizing (Shed & Shine Ep. 3) 

Length: ~12 minutes

 

Description:


Today we’re diving into one of the hardest — and most powerful — practices: asking for what you need without apologizing, shrinking, or overexplaining.

Women are less likely to negotiate, more likely to be penalized when they do, and often carry the extra load of invisible work. But here’s the truth: asking isn’t selfish — it’s self-advocacy. And when we ask clearly, unapologetically, we align our boundaries with both our values and our power.

I’ll share my own story of growing up in an immigrant household where asking for help felt like weakness, and how I’ve since reframed asking as an act of respect — for myself, for my truth, and for the abundance waiting to flow in. We’ll also weave in yoga philosophy (satya and ahimsa) and the chakra system to understand why brave asks are not just professional skills, but soulful practices.

What You’ll Learn:
  • Why women negotiate less — and face penalties when they do

  • The weight of emotional labor and invisible work that often goes unseen

  • The difference between aggression and clarity (and why assertive communication matters)

  • A simple role-play script for brave asks: “Here’s what I need. Here’s why it matters.”

  • How yoga philosophy and the chakra system support boundary-setting and self-advocacy

  • A reflection practice to start building confidence in your own voice

    • Resources Mentioned: 
    • Babcock, L., & Laschever, S. (2003). Women Don’t Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide. Princeton University Press. Book link

    • Hochschild, A. R. (1983). The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling. University of California Press. Book link

    • Brown, B. (2018). Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. Random House. Book link

      •  Reflection Prompt:

      What’s one ask you’ve been avoiding because of fear or self-doubt? This week, practice saying it out loud — even if it’s just to yourself in the mirror.

      Work With Me:

      This episode is just one glimpse into the work we do in my Shed & Shine coaching program — a six-week journey to shed the “shoulds” and step into your power. If this resonates, you’ll love the full program.

      Get on the waitlist now at drsarahleecoaching.com

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