Have you ever wondered why you seem to attract unavailable people? And no matter how much you're aware of this pattern, you can't help but find yourself in it time and time again, wondering if people who want a relationship actually exist? Maybe people around you have even noticed, and can't understand why you can't just find a nice person who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Well know this now: nothing is wrong with you if you answered yes to any of these questions! This is an unbelievably common and infuriating pattern, and there's often a reason behind it: likely you’re caught in what’s often known as the Anxious-Avoidant loop, a common dynamic created by people with Anxious (or Fearful Avoidant) attachment styles and Avoidant attachment styles being attracted to each other and then emotionally triggering each other in a repetitive loop until the relationship eventually implodes or fades out. This pattern, which is a result of behavioral science, gets disguised as common myths such as "you have to play the game," "let them chase you," "don't make yourself too available," "they'll figure it out someday" and even gender stereotypes like "men are non-committal" We bust all these myths and more as we talk about what this loop has to do with sex, self-worth, + trust in this month’s powerful episode. To get to know your own attachment style, take our quiz at www.truerlove.com.