In dealing with life’s hardest situations, it’s tempting to just simply take the ‘L’ or take the LOSS. But what difference would it make if instead of taking the LOSS, we start taking the LESSONS, apply them to our journey, and share them with others? 

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

Why were facing difficult situations involving others [00:50]

• Hurt people hurt people 

• Expecting the same thing from the other person 

• Taking things personally 

• Feeling victimized by the situation (which is a part our nature as humans) 

We face process pain differently [8:22]

• Fight aggressiveness with aggressiveness 

• Shutting down the other person

The haze of taking the ‘L’ [12:39] 

• Being silent/still to have the chance to learn the lesson 

• Setting aside your ego (even if it hurts) to process and get out of the situation 

• Recognizing what healing really looks like 

• Enduring the hurt

• Taking the ‘L’ and sharing it to others 

Knowing what the lesson is [20:20]

• Listening to your spiritual connection

• Taking small things away and not repeating them

• Recognizing the bigger picture 

• Remembering that healing is not dependent on others 

• What if you don't have to be the hero? 

Navigating the haze of taking the ‘L’ [27:36]

• Finding a person/group who will support you all the time 

• Listening to others who have experienced the same thing (i.e. articles, books, videos, etc). 

• Pausing and acknowledging the pain 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

• Listen to Lessons by Sinead Harnett
• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

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