It's easy to condemn the actors as 'selfish', or 'stupid' to throw everything away, including their careers, reputation and one can only imagine the negative consequences on their families and spouses.

What is really going on in the mind of people who have affairs?

In the latest episode, we speak to Jason*, who has both been someone who cheated on as well as someone who was cheated on in his past relationships to understand what's beneath the surface, to see the human behind the 'cheater', and explore what we can do to move forward and forgiving oneself and others.

Note: this episode was recorded before the recent scandal and aimed to offer a different perspective and reflection on the same topic.

Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-pod-ep-31

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introductions

[00:54] Experience of cheating and being cheated on

[05:49] Getting to the root cause

[08:57] Creating the conditions to not hurt others

[09:48] Mind is the forerunner of all states

[10:15] Morality and Right Effort

[11:31] Moving on with forgiveness, self-love and Right Effort

[15:32] Finding closure with your ex-partner

[16:23] Giving yourself closure

[17:34] Summary and wrap up

Special thanks to our sponsors:

Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Loo Tiong Ngee

Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin