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What if impermanence isn’t a reason to detach, but a reason to care more deeply right now? We take a clear-eyed look at grief, loss, and the practice that carries us when ideas don’t. A surprising story at a garbage dump becomes a Zen lesson: repulsion is a label, value hides in messy places, and steady effort—keep digging—reveals what cynicism would abandon.

From there, we tackle the “Zen disease” of trying to end worry by hating it. Instead of fueling the loop, we lay out a practical rhythm: see it, throw it aside, and keep going. We reframe death through a simple incense metaphor and a richer view of transition over annihilation. The pain of lost access is human; the leap to helplessness is optional. Prayer matters. Even if you can’t “receive,” your “broadcast” still carries. That’s why the 49-day period is so meaningful—consistent petitions can illuminate merit, soften karma, and remind us there are no good or bad people, only actions shaped by conditions.

We also open the door to the wider support network in Buddhist cosmology: guardians who prefer rescue over retribution, Jijang at the thresholds, Amitabha presiding with compassion. Much of our suffering is the friction of forcing earthbound rules onto subtler realms. A more honest stance—understand that I don’t understand—keeps us flexible, kind, and effective. Think of departure and arrival as simultaneous, like a newborn leaving water for air in a single breath, or a cut branch blooming when the tree blooms. Relationship remains.

Join us to reorient grief around presence, practice, and power: care fully while it’s here, let go when it’s gone, and keep digging. If this moved you, follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs a steadier way to face loss.

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Dr. Ruben Lambert can be found at wisdomspring.com

Ven. MyongAhn Sunim can be found at soshimsa.org