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Ep. 32: Are we taking this to the mat or the table?
Do you resolve conflicts where you feel like you have to be the winner? Bad news: that’s toxic conflict management.
Truly resolving conflict takes courage. It’s not easy, but it makes our relationships ten-fold better.
Tune in as we look at what toxic and healthy conflict resolution looks like, and how we navigate through the haze of choosing to meet halfway without feeling like losing.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Conflict resolution and the toxicity that sometime goes with it [4:20]
Conflict resolution is a recognition that conflict is a real thing
Conflicts arises because of incompatible ideals
What it means to “resolve a conflict”
Resolving a conflict doesn’t have to make you “the winner”
Feeling like you lost is a sign that a conflict hasn’t been resolved
What healthy conflict resolution looks like [10:50]
It can be uncomfortable
The willingness to make some adjustments
Everybody gets what they need
Having courage to call out what needs to be called out
Admitting that you don’t have everything figured out
Processing what you truly feel and how you want to say it
The haze of choosing to go to the table versus a mat [28:26]
Finding the balance between gracious towards others and setting boundaries
The willingness of the other party to meet halfway
Navigating through ‘meeting halfway’ [36:35]
What kind of person do you choose to be, despite all the difficulty?
Showing up from a place of love and understanding
Lessons [40:09]
In conflict resolution, your delivery is everything
Setting the tone for the conversation that has to happen at the table
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Put A Ring on It
Listen to Gonna Love Me by Teyana Taylor
TO STAY CONNECTED:
Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment.
Follow @iamshate on Instagram
Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on Instagram
If you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at [email protected].
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By Scott and Shaté HayesDo you resolve conflicts where you feel like you have to be the winner? Bad news: that’s toxic conflict management.
Truly resolving conflict takes courage. It’s not easy, but it makes our relationships ten-fold better.
Tune in as we look at what toxic and healthy conflict resolution looks like, and how we navigate through the haze of choosing to meet halfway without feeling like losing.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
Conflict resolution and the toxicity that sometime goes with it [4:20]
Conflict resolution is a recognition that conflict is a real thing
Conflicts arises because of incompatible ideals
What it means to “resolve a conflict”
Resolving a conflict doesn’t have to make you “the winner”
Feeling like you lost is a sign that a conflict hasn’t been resolved
What healthy conflict resolution looks like [10:50]
It can be uncomfortable
The willingness to make some adjustments
Everybody gets what they need
Having courage to call out what needs to be called out
Admitting that you don’t have everything figured out
Processing what you truly feel and how you want to say it
The haze of choosing to go to the table versus a mat [28:26]
Finding the balance between gracious towards others and setting boundaries
The willingness of the other party to meet halfway
Navigating through ‘meeting halfway’ [36:35]
What kind of person do you choose to be, despite all the difficulty?
Showing up from a place of love and understanding
Lessons [40:09]
In conflict resolution, your delivery is everything
Setting the tone for the conversation that has to happen at the table
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Put A Ring on It
Listen to Gonna Love Me by Teyana Taylor
TO STAY CONNECTED:
Spotify Playlist - Music for this moment.
Follow @iamshate on Instagram
Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on Instagram
If you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at [email protected].