In this epsiode therapist and author Vanessa Bennett and I discuss what standards are, red flags and how we show people how we want to be loved by how we love ourselves. 

Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU  which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inner life. This book did that for me so I highky recommend it. 

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