What do we mean when we say *men are trash*? What about the saying “not all men?” In this ep, we dive into nice guy culture and how the bar is so infamously low for men, and how that came to be. How has our feminism evolved over time? What did our feminism used to be like, before we knew what we know now? Plus Jess has a hot take on how women and femmes survive life with their cis-het male partners.

We break down Valentine’s Day, anti-Valentines, gift giving and the internalized misogyny that inevitably comes with the big day. Also why is being alone such a terrible thing? Why do we have to have someone on Valentine’s Day to be validated? Why can we be curing cancer but our grandmothers don’t approve unless we have a man? Why are we meant to envy people in relationships with men?

Mini disclaimer: What we talk about in this episode for the most part aren't our own original thoughts. These are ideas that other women and femmes, particularly black women and black femmes, have been working on, creating and developing for much longer. Nearly everything we’re saying is an extension of someone else’s idea that has been around for a while. Study and learn from black women; they’re the ones doing the work first with none of the credit. Personally, I’ve (Jess) been soaking up a lot of information from podcasts featuring people like Rachel Cargle, Salma El-Wardany, Bobo & Flex and white women like Clementine Ford and Sephy and Wing who also learned these concepts from likely the same black women as well as iconic activists and writers like Angela Davis and Chidera Eggerue (The Slumflower).

Big DISCLAIMER: This is not a child friendly episode, nor are most of our episodes because of language and content. Enjoy!

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