We think it's time for grown people to use their words. Some may think they’re choosing peace when really they’re choosing avoidance, which can lead to resentment. The key is to deliver what you need to say without causing the other person to become defensive. 

Oftentimes, ending with questions offers the other person the chance to respond and be heard. It paves way to have a conversation without friction. Let’s talk about what it really looks like to keep the peace. 

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

What does it mean to be avoidant? [3:03] 

• Choosing not to have involvement 

• Deciding not to engage with anything that feels uncomfortable

Overcoming Avoidance [9:00]

• Normalize just having conversations where we don't agree on a matter

• Understanding that we have different perspectives

• Setting expectations

The haze of choosing to be direct [24:48]

• Exposure

• The risk of judgment and abandonment

• Fear of rejection

What does peace really look like? [31:13]

• Being your most authentic self.

• No judgment.

Consequences of not talking about difficult conversations [36:03]

• Pebbles of resentment

• Fallout

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