Spill the Real Podcast

Ep. 4: Things We're No Longer Doing in Our 40s


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Real Talk Question: Give me one word to describe the season of life you are in.

This episode kicks off with a simple but powerful question—and like most things in this season, the answers aren’t surface-level. The words we chose reflect growth, exhaustion, clarity, and a whole lot of truth about where we are right now.

Because let’s be honest… Being a woman in your 40s isn’t just “getting older.” It’s navigating motherhood, identity shifts, relationships, responsibilities—and then throw perimenopause into the mix and suddenly everything feels heavier, more emotional, and a little harder to manage.

The Heart of This Episode:

This conversation is all about what we’re no longer doing—and why that matters.

Somewhere along the way, we realized: We don’t have the same energy, time, or tolerance for things that drain us… and we’re finally okay admitting that.

We go back and forth on:

  • Protecting our energy like it actually matters (because it does)

  • Letting go of people-pleasing and over-explaining

  • Not saying yes out of guilt or obligation anymore

  • Releasing the pressure to show up for everything and everyone

  • Choosing peace over proving a point

  • Recognizing that rest is not laziness—it’s survival in this season

There’s a shift happening… Less performing. Less pretending. More honesty about what we can handle—and what we simply don’t want to anymore.

Highlights from the Episode:

  • The moment you realize your capacity has changed—and you stop apologizing for it

  • Why protecting your energy feels uncomfortable at first (but necessary)

  • The invisible weight of “adulting” in your 40s—and how it hits differently now

  • Navigating hormones, emotions, and mental load all at once

  • The freedom that comes from saying, “I’m not doing that anymore”

  • How this season is less about doing more—and more about doing what actually matters

Real Talk Reflection: What is something you are no longer willing to carry in this season of your life?

And maybe even more importantly… What would it look like to let it go without guilt?

Join the Conversation:

We don’t have this figured out—and that’s exactly why we’re having these conversations.

Come spill the real with us. Share your one word for this season. Tell us what you’re no longer doing in your 40s.

Because if you’ve been feeling this shift too… You’re not alone.


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Spill the Real PodcastBy Amanda Owen & Kristi Hayden