Lots of people love to argue. But few know how to change someone's mind.

Victor takes a look at why using great arguments in the wrong situation can be counter productive. When you are arguing -- ahem, talking passionately -- with someone, what's often needed are a listening ear and pointed questions. If you want to improve your ability to persuade someone, this episode is for you.

Parental pause point questions:

1. Do you think letting your opponent know how wrong they are is a good way to win an argument? (3:43)

2. Have you tried any of these approaches? How did they work? (5:54)

3. Which of The Great 8 would you apply to those arguments? (7:06)

4. Have you ever been in a debate with an individual? How'd it turn out? (16:14)

5. Think back to your last argument. What would you have done differently? (30:36)

The Great 8 questions:

1. What happens next?

2. Has this been tried before?

3. Is there a principle involved?

4. What are the trade-offs?

5. What do you mean by that?

6. Is this an appeal to emotion or logic?

7. Am I focused on the speaker or the argument?

8. What does the Bible say?