What did dating look like in our 20s—and what should it look like now? In this episode, Trever and Bry reflect on how dating has changed from early, scrappy, low-budget, high-intent dates to the fuller, more complex reality of dating in your 30s with kids, careers, and real-life constraints.

They talk about recreating old favorite dates (pizza picnics, bookstore dates, long walks, bike rides, and prayer retreats), what pursuit looks like after marriage, and how limitations once fueled creativity in ways they want to reclaim. Along the way, they wrestle with comfort vs. stagnation, the role of shared and separate hobbies, and how to intentionally date in a season where time and energy feel scarce.

The conversation widens to parenting, modeling friendship and affection for kids, love languages, and why dating doesn’t always need to be an “event”—sometimes it’s simply choosing each other again and again in small, meaningful ways.

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep dating alive after marriage, kids, or long seasons of routine, this one’s for you.