Recently, I posted a video suggesting that you should let things go and not carry them with you. I got a comment that this advice is not for everyone.

I respectfully disagree. The objection is that there are some offenses so severe that they cannot be forgiven. I believe that those are the situations where being able to let go is the most important.

I have been wronged fairly severely in my life. I have even had people threaten my family and my daughter. I had a choice. I could have pursued them, destroyed their reputation, found other forms of revenge, but as I stood at the precipice of that decision, I asked myself, "Who will you become while you do this?" I did not like the answer.

If someone wrongs you, hurts you, violates you, and you carry hate in your heart, you may get one or two good shots on them, but you will carry the poison within yourself every hour of every day.

This does not mean that you should not seek justice. If someone commits a crime against you, they should be prosecuted. But you should not carry in you the evil that they have done. Do not continue to punish yourself as a proxy for punishing your assailant.

You need never forget, but it is very healthy to forgive.