Does the phrase "All is fair in love and war" hold true when the going gets tough in our ministry and personal lives? In this episode I am challenging the notion of "All is fair in love and war", opening up the room for a raw and real conversation on the pressures of being a woman in ministry, and how our bad days affect our loved ones. Drawing on personal experiences within a congregation conflict, I highlight the implications of telling half-truths to manipulate situations. Trust me, no one is off the hook here – if you're a man in ministry, I welcome you to this crucial conversation. Let's together find better ways to handle stress and pressure, without unfairly projecting our feelings onto others.