I’ve never been very competitive.

In high school track, I wasn’t trying to beat the guy in the next lane — I was studying the best in the world and asking, “How can I get better?”

This week, that mindset showed up in my parenting.

Monday was smooth.

Wednesday was chaos. I yelled.

Instead of blaming my son, I did what I used to do as an athlete — I looked for a coach.

In this episode, I talk about:

Why frustration is often a signal of ignorance

How seeking expertise beats reacting emotionally

What “connection before correction” actually looks like

The difference between competing with others and competing with yourself

Ignorance made me yell.

Learning helped me connect.

If something isn’t working — at home, at work, in your body — find a coach.

Growth is a choice.