I've got a bit of a different spin on power struggles than we tend to hear.

Most advice out there focuses on how to handle power struggles: give them warnings, give them choices, offer incentives or consequences to get them to comply.

Did you catch that?

Most advice about handling or avoiding power struggles is built on the assumption that the goal is compliance.

We want to get them doing what they're "supposed" to do without all the resistance.

It's not bad advice. It just glosses over the root cause of the power struggle: You and your child have different thoughts about what they should be doing. And it's compounded by your expectations that they defer to you. That they comply.

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