This week, I’m cutting through the bypassing and somatic obsession to say what needs to be said: your dysregulation isn’t always about your nervous system — it’s often about your shadow. We’ve been told somatic tools are the holy grail for regulation, but no one’s talking about how unchecked ego, avoidance of truth, and the refusal to look at yourself are the real issues. I’m unpacking how shadow work is the root of real self-mastery and why your ability to confront yourself with honesty determines how “regulated” you actually are.

 Inside this episode:

• Why your nervous system dysregulation is rooted in emotional immaturity
• How shadow work supports true regulation more than any somatic tool ever will
• The difference between safety and stability in business
• How women project emotional unmet needs onto business — and why it stalls growth
• Why refinement is a mature person’s game (and how to know if you’re ready)
• How ego fragility shows up as reactivity, shame, and sabotage
• Why humility is your most underrated business strategy
• The power of accountability, transparency, and energetic clean-up in leadership

 Quotes:

“Burnout... It’s not because I was doing too much. I was doing too much to try to compensate for the fact that I was really triggered. It’s a compensation for the shadow.”

“Refinement is a mature individual’s game. It is not for somebody who is very overly sensitive to criticism or feedback.”

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