HEATHER & CHESTER: A lesson on communication. If we understand all the words, how can we still speak past each other? Meet Chester, the guy who sent me voice memos and inspired my fascination with voice. We all want to be heard, but we forgot how to listen. Yet, listening can misguide us if we just hear what we want to hear. I finally learn about my love language. Listening to my participants be so forthcoming with each other and share words of affection inspire me to communicate better. And I try, starting with Chester. 

3 things to explore after this:

1. Take the 5 love languages quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/singles-quiz/

2. Medium article by Sara Ness on relating languages - “The Relating Languages, or Why We Don’t All Just Get Along” https://ness-sara.medium.com/the-relating-languages-or-why-we-dont-all-just-get-along-a523576543a5

3. Psychology research article on online dating by professors Eli Finkel, Paul Eastwick and colleagues - “Online Dating: A Critical Analysis From the Perspective of Psychological Science”  https://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/eli-finkel/documents/2012_FinkelEastwickKarneyReisSprecher_PSPI.pdf