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The car ride home is where confidence quietly disappears.
Not because your child failed…
But because the timing is wrong.
After class, games, or tournaments, kids aren’t ready for feedback. Their emotions are high. Their nervous system is buzzing. And when parents try to coach in that moment, kids don’t hear help… they hear judgment.
This is the car ride home rule for parents.
And it’s one of the simplest ways to protect your child’s confidence without lowering standards.
In this episode, we talk about why post-training feedback backfires, what sports psychologists say about emotional timing, and the three sentences every parent should stick to until their child is ready to talk.
In this video, you’ll learn:
- Why the car ride home is emotional, not teachable
- How well-meaning feedback turns into confidence erosion
- Three phrases that keep kids feeling safe and valued
- When feedback actually sticks
- How to hold standards without damaging the relationship
Primary CTA:
Watch this episode, then try the rule once this week… and notice the difference.
🎥 Watch next:
For Parents: Raising Strong Kids in Martial Arts
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNG9pziJ_TmtPAIOJr9RLanf-ALPJ_Wrr&si=mQIhTB2roAbrp3nF
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⏱️ Timecodes:
- 0:00 Where confidence actually breaks
- 0:23 Why parents coach too soon
- 0:56 When feedback feels like judgment
- 1:17 The car ride home rule
- 1:25 Three things to say… only
- 1:53 Why this doesn’t lower standards
- 2:10 When kids can actually learn
- 2:22 This applies beyond sports
- 2:32 Protect the relationship first
📌 About Off The Mat Podcast
We help parents and martial artists raise strong kids through martial arts and mindset.
Our mission is to share lessons on confidence, discipline, and character that last a lifetime… on and off the mats.
STAY CONNECTED
Website → https://www.championtkd.ca
Josh → https://www.instagram.com/josh.dumoulin/
Nicole → https://www.instagram.com/nicole99kicks/
Email → [email protected]
STAY CONNECTED WITH US
Website | www.championtkd.ca
Josh's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/josh.dumoulin/
Nicole's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nicole99kicks/
Email | [email protected]
WANT A ICE BATH FOR HOME?
Website | www.nurecover.com
Use COUPON CODE | JOSH66116
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The car ride home is where confidence quietly disappears.
Not because your child failed…
But because the timing is wrong.
After class, games, or tournaments, kids aren’t ready for feedback. Their emotions are high. Their nervous system is buzzing. And when parents try to coach in that moment, kids don’t hear help… they hear judgment.
This is the car ride home rule for parents.
And it’s one of the simplest ways to protect your child’s confidence without lowering standards.
In this episode, we talk about why post-training feedback backfires, what sports psychologists say about emotional timing, and the three sentences every parent should stick to until their child is ready to talk.
In this video, you’ll learn:
- Why the car ride home is emotional, not teachable
- How well-meaning feedback turns into confidence erosion
- Three phrases that keep kids feeling safe and valued
- When feedback actually sticks
- How to hold standards without damaging the relationship
Primary CTA:
Watch this episode, then try the rule once this week… and notice the difference.
🎥 Watch next:
For Parents: Raising Strong Kids in Martial Arts
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNG9pziJ_TmtPAIOJr9RLanf-ALPJ_Wrr&si=mQIhTB2roAbrp3nF
=============================
📱 Subscribe to Off the Mat Podcast HERE:
Apple → https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/off-the-mat/id1672160372
Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/17JWPk4LPRAyiXkyPWxHrD
Amazon → https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5eb5541a-ddf9-48b8-870e-eaace60ff7c8/off-the-mat
Google → https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8yMTEyODg1LnJzcw
⏱️ Timecodes:
- 0:00 Where confidence actually breaks
- 0:23 Why parents coach too soon
- 0:56 When feedback feels like judgment
- 1:17 The car ride home rule
- 1:25 Three things to say… only
- 1:53 Why this doesn’t lower standards
- 2:10 When kids can actually learn
- 2:22 This applies beyond sports
- 2:32 Protect the relationship first
📌 About Off The Mat Podcast
We help parents and martial artists raise strong kids through martial arts and mindset.
Our mission is to share lessons on confidence, discipline, and character that last a lifetime… on and off the mats.
STAY CONNECTED
Website → https://www.championtkd.ca
Josh → https://www.instagram.com/josh.dumoulin/
Nicole → https://www.instagram.com/nicole99kicks/
Email → [email protected]
STAY CONNECTED WITH US
Website | www.championtkd.ca
Josh's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/josh.dumoulin/
Nicole's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nicole99kicks/
Email | [email protected]
WANT A ICE BATH FOR HOME?
Website | www.nurecover.com
Use COUPON CODE | JOSH66116