Firefighters go through a certain training where they have to talk a person into coming out of a burning building, no matter how scary it could be. It’s because coming in to save that person would endanger them. 

We find this idea interesting because of its uncanny similarity with the path towards healing. The truth is nobody, except you, can save you. Sure, others can help, but it will ultimately be you who will have to work for it. You have to be willing to do it yourself. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking what it means to “participate in your own rescue.” You know the saying… You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. But when it comes to our healing and growth, it’s time to drink up, y’all.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR 

What it means to “participate in your own rescue” [3:11]

• Understanding that there’s no one else that can save you—except you 

• There are others who can help you, but their efforts go to waste if you’re not willing to save yourself 

• Scott’s 90-day program treatment and the importance of the first 30 days 

• Having to do the work with the guidance of others (e.g. therapist) 

How to know you need saving [9:07] 

• Having nowhere to go—do you want to stay stuck, blame yourself and others, or you want to do something different? 

• The overwhelming desire to break patterns, break cycles

• Feeling like you’re made for more 

The haze of moving to a place of healing [14:53] 

• Causing friction with people who want to stay in the same place 

• Letting go of the idea that somebody is coming to save you 

• Being resistant to change 

• Realizing that where you are currently is unhealthy

• The fear of uncomfortability 

• Thinking that you don’t have what it takes to move forward

• Finding no support 

Navigating the haze [31:30] 

• You have to have the willingness to save yourself 

• Being in a healthy relationship that supports you rather than hold you back 

• Doing a leap of faith 

• Understanding that pursuing healing is a long journey and tenaciously walking towards it 

Great lessons on saving yourself [36:34] 

• It’s not a straight line, but you’ll learn a lot along the way, and you can share what you learned to others 

• You’re more powerful than you think. There’s a fire inside you waiting to be lit 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

Episode 45: Healing our relationship with money w/Ranauldo & Liz Wright.

Listen to If I Can’t by 50 Cent

Listen to Someday We’ll All Be Free by Donny Hathaway

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