In this eye-opening episode of Affirm That Sh!t, I’m joined by Amber Durbin, LPC, a courageous woman who shares her journey through not one but two domestic violence marriages. Amber opens up about the patterns of control, manipulation, and abuse that she endured, and how she eventually found the strength to walk away—not once, but twice. 
 
Amber’s first marriage began when she was young, and she believed the verbal abuse and control were “normal.” Isolated from friends and family, she endured years of apologies and excuses before a simple birthday party became the catalyst for her escape. 
 
Her second marriage started with charm and promises but quickly revealed red flags that Amber dismissed as cultural differences. Over time, the relationship turned manipulative and abusive, even affecting her children. Amber recounts harrowing moments, like recovering from a C-section while being forced into uncomfortable situations, and the heartbreaking moment her oldest son was physically harmed. 
 
Through her courage, Amber fought for her children’s safety, navigating a lengthy legal process to ensure their well-being. Now, she shares her joy in watching her kids thrive, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and how to protect your peace. 
 
This episode is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to break free and rebuild, and the importance of listening to your instincts.