You know God loves you. You can quote Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8. But somewhere underneath, your heart is still running on an old operating system.

Maybe your system says: Love stays when you perform. Love leaves when you fail. Love is not safe. So you cling. You overexplain. You hand over your emotions and wait to be chosen.

Or maybe your system says something else: Needing people is dangerous. Getting close means getting hurt. It's safer to leave first. So you distance. You minimize. You find flaws in perfectly good people and tell yourself you never cared that much.

Two different strategies. One root.

That's not a lack of faith. That's an unhealed attachment wound.

In this episode, I share my own story of doing the work, healing in friendships, and still finding myself bracing for impact when romance got close. I unpack the Tree Framework to help you see whether you've been pruning branches or pulling roots... whether you tend to hold on or let go. And I walk you through five questions that will expose the childhood wounds still affecting your relationships today, with people and with God.

Because you cannot separate how you attach to others from how you attach to Him.

If you're tired of performing for love—or tired of pretending you don't need it at all—and ready to let God rewrite your core beliefs at the root level, this episode is your starting point.