I too used to be unaware (like 95% of the population) that I was creating my own, unpleasant life circumstances by not intentionally thinking about what I was doing.

I just thought that everything I didn’t like in my life was “happening to me.”

So, today I want to focus on a COUPLE of intentional things we can think about as far as what kind of marriage we want to have.

(Do we want a marriage where we not only lead, but also thrive, or one where we’re not happy and blame only our husbands for it?)

And BTW, we can apply this to life in general, but today I want to focus on a MOST important topic, which is the fostering of a happy and healthy marriage.

Thing ONE is NOT to focus on what’s not working… which will just get us more of the same. That’s the law of attraction at work!

So I want to suggest you do this instead:

1. Focus on what you love about your husband

2. What he loves about you

3. What you enjoy doing together and doing more of that!

4. The benefits of you staying married (there’s more poverty & abuse in one-parent households) are many, check out Fatherless America, by David Blankenhorn for statistics.

5. Children spend less time with both parents, and their lives are disrupted

6. Parents spend less time with their children and more time driving or logistics

So if we can avoid divorce all the better for all of concerned, especially our children and for society as a whole.

But we don’t want to do stay married at the cost of your happiness, correct?

And that’s why we’re talking about what our thoughts are creating… most times is just our thoughts, and that’s great news!

Thing TWO…

Here’s the POSITIVE plan!

1. Focus on WHY you married your husband

2. How you USED to feel about & around him

3. How HE used to feel about & around you

4. All the things he does well

5. All the good things he does for YOU and your family

6. His contribution to your life and household

And one last, but very importantly note… take into account what sad, hurtful, or difficult events in his life have shaped him into the person he is today.

Keep on eye on the fact too often us wives have a long list of complaints about our husbands while we don’t notice any of our own short comings, and LUCKY FOR US, neither do our husbands… THEY ACCEPT US FOR WHO WE ARE AS WE ARE!!

In closing… Focus on YOU not on all his shortcomings.

In Ep 59 – Give Others the Gift of Your Own Happiness – I talk about focusing on our OWN personal growth instead of what others are doing “wrong”, mainly our husbands. Check out here…

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-59-give-others-the-gift-of-your-own-happiness/id1597656935?i=1000593406439

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