Episode 3 of the 8-Part Self-Love Series with Heather Rafael dives into a powerful truth many women are just beginning to face: self-love starts when you stop waiting to be chosen and start choosing yourself.

In this episode, Heather breaks down how people-pleasing, over-explaining, and constantly seeking approval are signs of self-abandonment — and how these habits impact your nervous system, confidence, and relationships. She shares practical, emotionally safe steps to help you reconnect with your needs, build self-trust, and create healthier boundaries without guilt.

You’ll learn simple, real-life self-love practices like pausing before responding, asking yourself “Do I actually like this?”, setting boundaries without over-justifying, tolerating the discomfort of change, and practicing daily “micro self-selection.” These tools help rewire patterns of overgiving and guide you toward more authentic relationships, emotional clarity, and inner confidence.

If you struggle with people-pleasing, low self-worth, or feeling disconnected from your true desires, this episode offers grounded, nervous-system-friendly strategies to help you build real self-love from the inside out.