Life has been life-ing, y’all. And when we’re in seasons like this, it’s easier for our emotions to get the best of us. So in this episode, we’re talking through the value of holding onto your emotions even when everything else feels like it’s falling through the cracks.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

Showing up in tough seasons [2:37]

• What exactly is emotional regulation? 

• Finding the grade to regulate your emotions

• How to have self-awareness 

• Growing through the difficulties 

• Being cool, calm, and collected under pressure

• How you act differently when you’re tired 

• The key to having high EQ

• Navigating emotions in the neurodivergence spectrum

Healing from “not enoughness” [14:24]

• Understanding that we have different level of needs 

• Feeling that you are not enough could lead to shutting down others 

• Realizing that there is nothing wrong with pure, ra, and honest emotion— it just needs parameters

• Whatever you feel, don’t let it control your emotion

• Controlling your emotions, so they don't control you

The haze of regulating your emotions [18:21]

• Being in autopilot you sometimes barely care about what other people might feel around you 

• Most people don’t realize that therapy is NOT healing; it merely allows you to harness your own healing 

• Thinking that a mistake or setback is an opportunity to learn is difficult 

• Being present in the moment could be exhausting 

• We’re still figuring out how to give ourselves permission to take a step back and just breathe

• Figuring out ways on how to get out of a toxic environment and care for your well-being

Navigating the hell of a haze of regulating your emotions [30:16]

• Withdrawing from always wanting to feel good—you’re NOT a baby that always needs to be pacified

• Working on understanding human emotions and that there are days that you’ll feel different emotions (You should not let these temporary emotions dictate your decisions) 

• Learning to address your childhood wounds so they don’t up consuming  you

Biggest lessons around emotion regulation [35:28]

• Pausing before responding can do wonders to your relationships (because things you’ve said in the heat of the moment can probably be forgiven, but not forgotten)

• DON’T make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions

• Being emotional is NOT a negative thing! 

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:

The Color of Emotional Intelligence by Farrah Harris 

The Love Haze: Episode 53, "Bigger than my bottom."

The Love Haze: Episode 35, "The stories we tell ourselves."

The Love Haze: Episode 41, "Re-parenting your inner child."

Listen to It’s a Beautiful Day by TRINIX

Listen to Regulate by Warren G

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