In this conversation with Kola Adetu - a Therapist and Coach who specialises in Trauma and support for couples with cPTSD - we discuss how the trauma we've experienced, no how matter how small it may seem, shapes who we are and how we behave in our everyday lives. We discuss how what we experience as children impacts our ability to relate with others as adults and Kola explains that a feeling of safety is the essential baseline for being open and vulnerable in communication. Without safety we have nothing.