How can we be better? By learning to self soothe our own emotions.. and we are completely self aware of them Emotional Intelligence: manage your own emotions in positive ways or to understand others emotions in positive ways: How can we better soothe our own triggers -- by being more self aware & by serving others, pay attention to the present moment & do the work to understand your triggers - they come from your past.

work with kindness, compassion and empathy - be aware of others and the present moment - not just yourself 
each of us can do our own part - small habits turn into big changes 
the truth will give you the most freedom - don't allow others pain to penetrate you
if you are able to help other women .. volunteer at Girl UP and the UN Foundation, The Salvation Army 
pray for them - every roadblock is there for a greater lesson, triggers do hurt - but dont let your past or other people make you feel so small. 
nobody should have to make another feel less than to make themselves feel more than, the math just won't add up. 
look up books:
"How to Talk to Strangers" - Malcom Gladwell 
"The Untethered Soul" -Michael A Singer  
"The Power of Now" -Eckhart Tolle

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