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March 10, 2026
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Ep 79: Undermining Urgency

Episode summary:

Jen reflects on the quiet but persistent sense of urgency that can shape our days without us fully realizing it. She shares how constant input from phones, messages, podcasts, and the everyday rhythm of parenting and work can keep the nervous system activated. Even small pockets of potential stillness often get filled automatically. Jen begins experimenting with simple shifts such as letting space remain empty, delaying the impulse to respond or order something right away, and allowing moments of boredom, quiet, or daydreaming to unfold.

As she notices how urgency feels in her body, Jen explores the deeper desire behind these changes, which is cultivating more inner calm and spaciousness. She reflects on the pull of productivity and the identity that can form around always being responsive. The conversation closes with a reading from The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo and a gentle reminder that when everything feels urgent, slowing down may be exactly what we need.

Favorite Quotes:

“There’s lots of actual opportunity for white space in my day, but I never let it be white space. I always fill it.” 

“There’s opportunity that presents for stillness, for quiet, for calm, but I don’t really give myself that chance.” 

“I’m just so tired of being run around by productivity.” 

“I’m wanting more inner calm. I’m wanting more inner stillness.” 

“The mind is always scanning, always scanning, like what should you be doing?” 

Resources 

Jen's Instagram
Jen's Substack
Sober Sisters in St Louis Substack
Sober Sisters in St Louis Website
McDaniel Nutrition Therapy Instagram
McDaniel Nutrition Therapy Website
Past Podcast Episodes
Book: The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo
Book: Solitude: A Return to the Self by Anthony Storr
Spring Fling: Style, Silence & Understanding Urges
2026 Silent Retreat 

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